📓 Blog Post 9– “So Here’s How Some Guys Actually Grade Relationships”
📓 Blog Post – “So Here’s How Some Guys Actually Grade Relationships”
✍️ By Chaos Samuel
Ladies and gentlemen — let’s clear the air real quick 💨.
The words friend, close friend, even love… get thrown around so loosely these days it’s basically comedy 🎭.
Some of you out here calling people you met twice your “day ones.” Be serious.
So let me break down how the grading should work.
Male friendships? Simple.
Female connections? That’s different altogether 🧩.
👥 Male Friendships (My System)
Stranger ➡️ Acquaintance ➡️ Friend ➡️ Close Friend (brother-level).
That’s it. That’s how I see it.
If I’ve only met you once or twice? You’re a stranger 🚶.
Three times? Fine, you’re an acquaintance 👋.
A friend? That’s someone I actually vibe with 😎.
Close friends? That’s brother-tier. Family without the blood 🤝.
It’s clean. No extra titles. No overthinking 🧠.
👩 Female Connections (How Some Men Grade Relationships With Them)
Now for the ladies 💅. And just to be clear — this isn’t me, it’s just how some men categorise relationships with females.
🔹 Stranger – Never met or met once or twice.
Side Note: if something happened here and you never meet again?
Yeah, Gen Z calls that a one-night stand.
Don’t dress it up as “love at first sight.”
If it was really love at first sight, why do so many people bounce after a few rounds claiming they “lost interest”?
Sorry to burst your bubble 🫧, but sometimes what some people call love is just a temporary rush — strong feelings, weak foundation 🫠
And even if it was love at first sight — some of you sure have loved a whole lot 😏
Maybe even in the double digits 🔢.
Who knows?
If those “great loves” were stacked together, it’d probably look like the Great Wall of China 🧱👀
Anyway..
🔹 Acquaintance – Seen a few times. Civil. Surface-level conversations 🙃
🔹 Friend – Someone he vibes with. Conversations, laughter, decent trust 😂🤝
🔹 Close Friend (sister) – Feels like family 👩❤️👨. Gifts, support, looking out for you — but nothing more 🎁💐
🔹 Princess Tier – The pre-dating zone 👑. Maybe the deed already happened, Maybe it didn’t.
Maybe he is just testing for long-term potential.
Don’t ask “What are we?” — this is the princess tier 💬💐
You’ll probably get treated well, almost queen-like. Shopping 🛍️, restaurants 🍣, thoughtful gifts 🎁, maybe even a flight if long distance✈️. But there’s a ceiling ⛔
Anything more? Reserved for whoever his queen might be.
🔹 Dating (Queen) – mutual commitment 💍.
If you reach here, he most likely sees you as the potential mother of his kids 👶
Honesty becomes a rule. Loyalty becomes law ⚔️
And yes — the perks tend to scale with how rich the individual is 💰
✈️ If he’s comfortable? Trips, fine dining, thoughtful gifts 🍷🕯️
💎 If he’s wealthy? Upgrades: private jets, yachts, designer bags, luxury experiences 🛥️👜
As to how rich? That’s fate’s roll of the dice 🎲
Either way, Queen status grows with him 🌹
🔥 THE REAL EMOTIONAL SYSTEM (FINAL FORM)
(The hidden settings certain people operate on — whether they admit it or not)
Some people sort their relationships like apps on a home screen.
It’s not cold, it’s just.. structured.
Not everyone deserves full access to the emotional WiFi.
Here’s the system.
🟥 0–50% RANGE — ACQUAINTANCES
This is the outer perimeter.
The “I know you, but not enough to care deeply” tier.
We’re talking:
• coworkers
• classmates
• gym bros who dab once
• neighbors
• casual online mutuals
Typical allocation: 35–45%.
Enough to function.
Enough to be polite.
Not enough to have emotional influence.
No expectations.
No investment.
No risk 😌
It’s friendly but slightly detached —
NPC-level interactions only ☑️
If someone in this category switches up, betrays you, disappears, throws shade…
Congratulations, nothing in your life changes 🫠
🟧 65 - 85 % RANGE — FRIENDS (ACTUAL FRIENDS)
This is the “real friend but not inner circle” tier.
Warm, consistent, fun — but not life-altering.
These people get:
• good vibes
• shared moments
• moderate trust
• laughter
• presence when needed
65% is enough for:
• caring without drowning
• showing up without obligation
• sharing but not oversharing
• trusting but not blindly
This tier is stable but reversible 💛
A solid chapter, but not the plot twist of your story 📖
🟩 85 - 100 % RANGE — FAMILY, CLOSE FRIENDS & ROMANTIC COMPANIONS
This is the highest circle.
The whitelist.
The access pass unlocked only through consistency, loyalty, and time 🔐.
Who enters this tier?
• family
• trusted friends
• romantic partner
• people who proved loyalty through actions, not words
• the ones who show up when things collapse
• the people who hear the unfiltered version of you
85% comes with:
• emotional depth
• loyalty without conditions
• trust without dependence
• closeness that doesn’t suffocate
• love that builds, not breaks
This is the core.
The inner circle inside the inner circle.
The tribe 💚.
If someone in this tier switches up?
Yeah… it may hurt.
Because this is the only tier where betrayal actually lands.
Most people never reach 85.
Even fewer stay there.
Some hit the emotional cap of 100 —
and even then, only half make it long-term.
⚖️ Final Clarifications
This grading isn’t universal ⚠️
Not all men. But some.
Don’t take offense if you see yourself in one of these tiers.
Reality stings, but it’s still reality 🪞
And if you don’t like how certain men grade?
Find one who grades differently 🧭
Simple.
At the end of the day, everyone has their own system.
This is just one lens.
— Chaos Samuel
✒️ Writing without permission. Living without labels.
